Miniature Miracles!

A behaviour that is rewarding ,is a behaviour that is repeated !

Parenting is a frequently talked ,and tested topic of these days,no wonder why!.This being a manifestation of highly dynamic societies and life styles.There is still no one rule of thumb ,or the most yielding technique in it, but to put all your hearts into it ....rather than calling it a successful tool,it is only right to call it a fulfilling experience.

You First !

It is the most fundamental step for parents, to keep the self happy and motivated ,cause this same happiness radiates back to the kids.Keeping your head clear off all the controversies,and deadlines make this an easy process.But this is not always likely to happen with grown ups ,who are built in with a killer program called OVERTHINKING.We tend put our hands into too many bowls trying to go the extra mile ,and finally end up blowing the entire roof apart.

Children do what we do !

They don't do what we tell !

Those shiny little eyes are watching you all the time and considering you to be the hero of heir world.

So play fair lads ,they are really picking up all the pieces that you've left ,and for them to build a monument or a hut it is upto to them ,But as parents we have every duty to lay in front of them the best pieces we can .And that's why i call these children a miniature version of the miracles we have been.

Tantrum Tales!

Even at the quietest of the quiet home there will have been a day that went totally off rails.These are fireworks in the sky ,that must come and go ,however scary it may seem.For it finally weaves a beautiful display that uncovers a soulful spirit.Feel no guilt for the tantrum you blew up on your kid or vice versa :)It is so human to flip the switch ,and if you have been so careful enough to not switch somebody else is definitely going to show to your kid what it is .So better you be first ,cause your child will learn to know this as a natural emotion and handle it better . Above all to be parent and child is to be in a relationship ,and relationships are messy.The care taken to tend the mess ,seems to look beautiful at the end.

Saying it out !"Sorry",its for both of you !

Apologizing, and talking mutually towards each other about the way they felt while experiencing the tantrum.It is giving back a reassurance at its best to get away with the guilt.When you talk it out ,your children feels valued and respected as human beings ,this being part of  building a strong self esteem.They understand that you are here to listen and sort out any mess that can possibly crop up.Soon with time you'll find your children having no difficulty sharing every piece of their life with you.

Still there can be a situation where it is way out of control.At these times ,sense the feeling when it starts ,move out from the proximity and find your way back to settling things after the pause.A head filled with too much of rage and worry ,can never figure out where to start.

Let them do the chores!
Julie Lythcott-Haims notes that "professional success in life, ....comes from having done chores as a kid".She also claims it as the earlier the better."It's Roll-up-your-sleeves- and -pitch-in mindset, a mindset that says,there's some unpleasant work ,someone's got to do it ,it  might as well be me...and that's what get you ahead in a workplace."Dr.Julie adds on that this data is based on the the Harvard Grant Study,the longest running longitudinal study in history ,spanning for more than 75 years.By doing these little works from the tender age ,they actually pick up a lot of impulsiveness, ownership,creativity ,leadership and a deep sense of joy in accomplishments.Work no longer seems to be work for these kids ,it's just part of crafting another big masterpiece for them.Childs play it becomes.


Does this all end here ....
There's so much to come ....